Penis Pain From Anal Sex: Some Tips

Not such a big secret: Men (except some who are into certain fetishes) don’t like penis pain. Penis pain can not only be a cause for concern about penis health, it can also just get in the way of enjoying sex or even simply getting through the day. That’s why knowing more about potential causes of penis pain is important. This article is going to focus on possible penis pain that may result from anal sex.

For the purposes of this piece, we are going to assume that the man is the partner who is “giving” anal sex to the other, rather than being the one who is receiving the anal sex.


It appears that instances of anal sex are on the rise. Certainly it is common among the gay community, with some surveys indicating that 90% of gay men have participated in receiving anal sex. And another survey indicates that 40% of women between the ages of 20 and 24 have been anally receptive (up from 16% in the early 1990s).

Anal sex refers to the insertion of the penis into a partner’s anus and the continued penetration of the anus; essentially, the anus takes the place of the vagina during this form of sex. In some cases, a phallic replica may be used rather than an actual penis.

Penis pain

It is fairly clear from this brief description that anal sex has the potential to be painful for the person who is on the receiving end. But penis pain can occur in the man who is doing the penetrating. Following are some potential causes of that pain.

– Insufficient lubrication. In anal sex, even more so than in vaginal sex, it is absolutely crucial that sufficient lubrication is employed. Unlike with vaginal penetration, the anus does not produce its own lubricant to help ease things along.

– Tightness. Even with lots of lubrication, in some instances a man’s penis may simply be too large to comfortably fit within the proffered space. This can lead to bruising on the penis, or even to cuts and tearing. (As might be imagined, it can also cause considerable pain and issue for the person receiving the penis as well.)

– Bacteria. Sometimes, especially if no condom is employed, anal sex can result in bacteria entering the urethra and establishing an infection.

– STI. Some serious STIs (sexually transmitted infections) such as gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV and trichomoniasis can result from anal sex, especially if no condom is used. Some STIs cause penis pain.


So what can a guy do to help prevent penis pain from anal sex? Two things are of primary importance: Use condoms and use plenty of lubrication – and make sure to reapply the lubrication if it wears off during the course of the activity.

The condoms can help to prevent STIs and cuts and tearing; however, even with a condom, there is a risk of STI transmission. And though condoms cut down on the likelihood of bruising and cuts, they still can occur. Condoms also are a big deterrent to bacteria seeping into the urethra and causing an infection.

It also helps if the partner has voided their bowels 20-30 minutes in advance of engaging in sex and has thoroughly wiped and washed the anus.

Men who believe they have contracted an STI or a urethral infection should consult with a doctor immediately to determine an appropriate course of treatment.

Sometimes the penis pain caused by anal sex is simple soreness of the organ, and using a top drawer penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) can help alleviate this soreness. The best crèmes for this purpose will include a combination of hydrating agents, ideally both Shea butter and vitamin E. Try to select one that also includes vitamin D, the so-called “miracle vitamin,” which has proven benefits in fighting diseases and supporting healthy cellular function.

A Free First Lesson For Anal Sex – Painfree and Pleasurable

What happens when most women have anal sex for the first time? Usually both the guy and the woman have never done it before and what they should be doing. The result? No foreplay, no preparation, they simply go straight into it. Unsurprisingly her body isn’t designed like that and the resulting pain can get so deeply entrenched that her brain makes a permanent connection: anal sex equals pain.

Now consider the opposite situation. Here the scenario is similar, except that the guy does everything correctly. He takes his time using correct foreplay techniques and takes things at her pace. This time her mind makes the opposite connection: anal sex equals pleasure.

These connections have a name in psychology: a somatic marker. Basically a somatic marker is a shortcut used to help the woman make decisions faster than the speed of conscious thought about whether something is in her best interests or not. They are primarily designed to help her avoid situations that are life-threatening (`Getting bitten by a spider hurts – best to avoid spiders in the future` is an example of one). As most women sexually experiment when they are younger, the chances are a lot higher that she had an inexperienced lover who set up the ‘anal sex really hurts` somatic marker!

Because of their survival value, these connections are very hard to break. This is why communication between couples is especially important for anal sex. You have to move at her pace and never try to force anything onto her.

The First Step

At first you just want to get her used to the feeling of anal stimulation. This is the time to experiment with either using a finger for stimulation, anilingus, intergluteal sex or a small, non-threatening sex toy. Your vibe when you do this is really important too, as it has to be about both of your pleasures. It should be good for her too.

After a while she should start to notice that anal stimulation can feel good. At this point, you will want to give her a little bit of penetration. The key here is to use more lubrication than you think is necessary. During first time anal sex, you can rarely use too much.

In terms of foreplay, most couples use sex toys to progress in anal sex. The general rule is to keep using larger and larger toys. In one session that could mean using up to 3 to 5 different toys. Look for any signs of discomfort from her. I usually have a codeword that she can use at any time to instantly stop everything.

That’s it for my first free anal sex lesson. The key thing is to always remember that any kind of sex is about both of you, therefore make it erotic and fun for her too and soon she will trust you to look after her emotionally and physically. Once you have that level of intimacy, you can move on to the more advanced techniques like anal orgasms.

Brain Games For Adults

Brain games for adults is a bit of misnomer, if by games you mean something to pass the time, because we adults can do much more with brain games these days than pass the time.

Ever heard of neurogenesis? Neurogenesis is a term used to describe the daily growth of new neurons, which is a capacity of the human brain that no one new about until about 10-15 years ago.

Ever heard of neuroplasticity? Neuroplasticity is the term used to describe how our brains form new connections when our brains are exposed to a novel learning experience.

According to Simon Evans,Ph.D. and Paul Burghardt,Ph.D., authors of the Bible of Brain Fitness, Brainfit for Life, those new connections can be formed within minutes.

But here’s the rub, those new connections must be reinforced with practice and those new neurons must be nurtured before they migrate to circuits in the brain, particularly memory circuits, where replacement parts are needed.

How Do You Nurture the Brain?

Well, Evans and Burghardt give us a model for making the brain a hospitable place for new neurons and help us reinforce the new connections between neurons formed when we experience a novel learning experience, which just might come from an adult brain game.

The brain fitness model taught by Evans and Burghardt has several components; physical exercise, nutrition including lots of omega 3 fatty acids and antioxidants, sleep, stress management, and novel learning experiences, which just might include brain games for adults.

The brain fitness writers and researchers say that the best neurogenesis and neuroplastic novel learning experiences are those which we experience when we learn a new language or a new instrument.

When it comes to brains, I am a firm believer in bigger is better, but I do not have time to regularly devote to learning a new language or a new instrument, so I was delighted to come across research in several new books which evaluates the efficacy of computerized novel learning experiences, and that experience can take the form of a brain game for adults.

Brain games for adults can take as little time as a few minutes between phone calls, or clients, or as long as one hour for forty days program put together by Michael Merzenich,Ph.D.

And the research is beginning to roll in which backs up the efficacy of brain games including the IMPACT study published in April of 2009, and the PNAS study first made public in 2008 or 2009.

The PNAS study evaluates the impact of doing a regular workout on the dual n back task, which means focusing in on a computer for 1/2 hour for 19 days, and the measuring stick on the dual n back was and IQ test.

So completing the dual n back adult brain game increases IQ? Yes it does, and you can show the results to your incredulous children, who may think that no adult brain can ever master the intricacies of electronic devices.

So there you have it, adult brain games which make possible increased neurogenesis and neuroplasticity, and do not take hours of tedious practice on the piano or language coaching.

In fact, computerized brain games for adults are so cool that I cannot get my 11 year old son to do them, which is another point in their favor as far as this ‘old dawg’ is concerned.